Is Your B-Game Holding You Back?

In a world where external achievements often measure success, it’s easy to overlook the most critical factor in our journey: our own thinking. Yes, you heard that right. Your thoughts play a crucial role in shaping your reality, influencing your decisions, and ultimately determining your sense of success and personal fulfillment. You have the power to take control of your thoughts and transform your life through self-leadership. That’s right—self-leadership is the key to living a richer, more fulfilling life.

Understanding Self-Leadership

Self-leadership is not just another buzzword or self-help gimmick. It’s a fundamental concept that lies at the heart of personal development. At its core, self-leadership is about pausing the autopilot of our minds and taking conscious control of our thoughts and actions. It’s about becoming the captain of our own ship, steering our lives in the direction we desire.

Imagine having the ability to engage your best thinking in moments that matter. What if you could make good decisions, and feel more confident, maybe even sleep better knowing that you’ve done your best? Whether in your relationships, career, or personal growth journey, that’s the power of self-leadership.

Cultivating a Valuegenic Mindset

To become a self-leader, you must embrace a valuegenic mindset. This mindset prioritizes creating value in every aspect of your life.

So, how do you develop this mindset?

It all starts with asking yourself a simple yet powerful question, the Central Question of Life, Love and Leadership coined by Peter Demarest and Harvey Schoof.

What choice can I make, and action can I take in this moment
to create the greatest net value for myself and others?

By asking this question, you empower yourself to make conscious choices that lead to positive outcomes—a cornerstone of self-leadership. Developing this positive, growth-oriented mindset fosters personal growth, abundance, and positivity, allowing you to thrive in any situation.

Uncovering Your Thinking Biases

One of the biggest obstacles to self-leadership is our own thinking biases, also known as our B-Game. In some people, these biases are responsible for our negative or limited thinking patterns, such as self-doubt, overthinking, anxiety, and irrational fear. For others, it might be overconfidence, arrogance, close-mindedness, or a self-centric worldview. While our B-Game may sometimes motivate us, more often than not, it holds us back from reaching our full potential.

We can pave the way for personal growth by recognizing and challenging these thinking biases. Through self-awareness and reflection, we can identify the hidden barriers preventing us from achieving our goals or feeling satisfied with our lives, and learn to overcome them.

Embracing Your Strengths

A crucial aspect of self-leadership is embracing our strengths, also known as our A-Game. These innate abilities serve as our superpower in navigating life’s challenges. Mastering our A-Game allows you to unlock confidence, resilience, and fulfillment. With practice, engaging your A-Game on purpose more often, rewires your brain, creating new neural pathways making it easier over time to practice these new ways of thinking.

Whether you’re seeking to elevate your leadership skills, boost your business, or simply enjoy life more fully, self-leadership development coaching is a journey of self-discovery and personal empowerment. Learning how to harness the power of self-leadership teaches you to create the life you truly desire.

Self-Leadership as a Way of Life

Self-leadership is not just a buzzword—it’s a powerful new way of thinking about your life. It’s a concept that has the potential to transform your life in ways you never thought possible. It’s a solution to a problem you didn’t know you had. By taking conscious control of your thoughts and actions, cultivating a valuegenic mindset, and embracing your strengths, you can become the architect of your own destiny.

Let’s unlock your best thinking together. Take the first step in your self-leadership journey by scheduling an introductory session with me today.  Remember, by embracing self-leadership, you’re not just transforming your life—you’re shaping a brighter future for yourself and those around you.

Here’s to becoming a valuegenic self-leader and living a richer life.


Kristin Clark is an Axiogenics LLC Partner and Certified Axiogenics Coach. She’s the owner of Insight Coaching and co-author of Living a Richer Life: It’s All in Your Head which she proudly wrote with her dad. She’s coached hundreds of people from various backgrounds, beliefs, industries, and professions. Kristin trains and coaches owners, executives, and business leaders seeking to become Valuegenic Self-Leaders.  Kristin can help you master your A-Game to elevate your leadership, engage your team, enhance your performance, embrace your relationships, and enrich your life.  

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